Two weeks and the walk back to life

11 03 2008

I don’t know, how to start this. I don’t know do I even need to do this. Zilch. Nada. Sifar… I really don’t know.

Many of my friends, almost everybody were offended. I didn’t take up their calls, didn’t reply their mails. When they came in knocking, well they didn’t find anybody inside. Its not just with my friends, it was with my family too. Poor fellas. I didn’t take up the newspaper, no mails, no news, no sms, no nothing…. Nothing which I consume[non food of course]. No corporate mails too. I don’t know from where did the idea germinate. I really don’t know. I was lying on my bed, half-sleepy half-contemplating [ okay don’t ask me, how do I do this, I intend to scare my gfs away with this], then that idea came to me. It was more of a realisation.

“What am  I doing? God! what the hell am I doing”
[trying to sleep? one tiny voice said almost as if asking me]
[Shut up!]

“This sucks! This sucks man!Something is wrong!  I am…. I am..err… yeah… I am not happy, something is wrong! I got to fix this”
[yeah right!]
“Yeah.. I need to fix this”
[but whats wrong?]
[I dont know!, gotto figure it out]

And I don’t know how did the solution come to me, but it was weird. I looked at my cell to check out the time[the revelation hour], and I got pissed off.
No time. No contacts. No news. Nothing…. From now onwards, I don’t know till when maybe days/weeks/months, till I feel like coming back.I switched off my mobile.

The next day I got up[ imagine, if we didn’t have bio clocks] and set onwards to my office. The same slumping thoughts. F*** I hate them. As if all my life force was taken out from me. I thought, okay lets give it some time. In office, once I reached, I pulled out the jack to the server. Pfoof* . Kiss the broadband connectivity goodbye, baby… But wait!! I had to update my files to the common server. What about that… okay, I connected it back, but resolved, No Outlook, no Thunderbird, no Rediff, no Mozilla either. 😦 No news, no sneek peak at newspapers too, no blogs[yeah that included the WordPress one too.] and I didnt carry my mobile at all.

Honestly for the first half an hour it felt awful. But you know what? I survived. In fact I started enjoying the solitude. Honestly [no doubt cave men were very satisfied fellas]

It went on. Till today. And honestly I didn’t find an end to the gnawing corrosive thoughts inside me. I was getting stagnant, almost devoid of any life force[ a la Calvin].

I got up pretty early today in the morning. Was good. Felt good[at last!] I dressed up and reached the road that leads to the office. Its where the auto wala leaves me, and I make the last two minutes of my walk.

Two minutes thats it! Just two minutes. Its such a small time. But still thoughts. The same thoughts came to me. I was getting stagnated. I had to solve it. Now and I mean right now!

I slowed down. The sea straight ahead was visible. I looked back.
“Chuck it! I am not going to office today”

I turned back, and was standing on the ECR road[read the wiki slug]which connects Chennai to Pondicherry along the Bay of Bengal coast.

I had the option. One side lead me to the city, the other out of it.

Authors note: Trust me, my family is still spooked out when I told them what I did today.

[Continued in the next part]


Its all about balance honey!

9 01 2008

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Uh no! You got me all wrong. I ain’t that materialistic, come on! 🙂 I am not going to talk about the bank balance (don’t have much to talk about it! ), or how to increase it by being a freelancer or something like that.

I am going to talk about something far more fundamental, enriching and holistic. I am talking about striking a balance between the different aspects of your life. Read the rest of this entry »

10 things to do before I hit 30!

7 01 2008

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Life is no brief candle for me. It is a sort of splendid torch, which I have got hold for the moment, and I want to make it burn as bright as possible before handing it on to future generations.

-George Bernard Shaw

No, 30 is not the beginning of the end. No, no, you got me all wrong, 30 is not when you start settling for less… 30 is just a milestone, is another year. For me, it just marks my end of recklessness and start of something more anchoring. I have often in past talked about overcoming fears and oft harangued mindsets to make a better you. Thought about applying the same for me. I took the pen and started jotting down things which actually excites me and makes me feel insecure/afraid. Read the rest of this entry »

Jeff Keller and The Japanese Red Crowned Cranes

6 01 2008

Image by wildphotons

Its an amazing thing how humans imitate their surroundings. Some behavioral scientists say, this dates back to prehistoric ages. Humans were natural mimics so that they fend off any extra attention on them when in groups. In simple terms, being with the crowd helped them to leverage on the advantage of numbers. Interesting, isn’t it!

Scott Adams, the famous cartoon strip Dilbert writer, illustrates this point further in his book The Religion War .As for me, it never had been more right. Right from my childhood I found myself, imitating the best handwriting around. When I was in Grade 6, I subconsciously imitated by Mathematics instructor’s flowery handwriting. When in Grade 8, again another switch came. I started imitating one of friends bold stroke filled handwriting. A switch in Grade 10 and Grade 12, subsequently proved this point. Handwriting is one point, but who knows subconsciously we are affecting, changing,evolving every moment of our living day imitating somebody. Maybe the best, maybe the most loved one, maybe….whatever. This is good in one very different way, we conform to standards, we conform to the crowd and everything is hunky-dory. But have you ever wondered, if it can ever backfire us. Didn’t get it yet? Wait, let me explain. If I am imitating my environment, then I am imitating its good things as well as bad things. When I imitate my friends’ vocabulary, then I unwittingly draw myself a bit more similar to them. But when the people around me are not exactly what they say, as positive, doesn’t it hamper my own survival to a huge extent?

I believe it is. So the essential point was, if we imitate the people around us, which we always do, then why don’t we make it sure, that our company is a positive, booming, healthy, creative one. After all, like attracts like, so when we try to stick around with them, we will have no choice than being a far different positive image, a shining example of the power of company. It’s amazing what people around can do to us.

The title image, demonstrates a very important thing. These are the Japanese Red Crowned cranes, flying in a flock for migration, I believe. But the interesting thing is, when they fly together, in absolute sync, which they always do, the entire flock creates such a huge lift for themselves that they even pull the loose snow out of the ground, brewing up a small storm. Its even interesting to know that the personal effort they apply in a flock, is around 30-40% lesser when they are flying alone. Powerful stuff, this positivity eh?

Jeff Keller has an interesting thing to mention about the company you keep. For the uninitiated, let me say a word a two for Jeff. Jeff is a highly successful motivational and life success speaker. He has written a million copy selling motivational book, Attitude is Everything. In this article of his, he rehashes the previous point in a far more exacting detail. Read on!

Associate With Positive People
By Jeff Keller, Author of the best-seller Attitude is Everything

Have you ever heard the phrase, “We become part of what we are around?.” Have you given much thought to how this principle has been molding and shaping your life? It’s worth thinking about. The people you associate with have a profound affect on how you feel and what you’ll ultimately achieve.I’m sure most of you have heard this principle before. Some of you have heard it a hundred times. But this is one of those areas where there is a large gap between theory and practice. In other words, you know it’s important to limit involvement with negative people, yet you continue to hang around with them.By the way, I’m not talking about your relationship with your spouse or significant other. I’m referring to discretionary relationships, both at work and in your leisure hours

In today’s literature, we frequently see the terms toxic people and nourishing people. As you might expect, toxic people are the ones who always dwell on the negative. The dictionary defines toxic as “poisonous” toxic people continually spew their verbal poison. In contrast, the dictionary definition of nourishing is “to nurture or promote the growth of.” Nourishing people are positive and supportive. They lift your spirits and are a joy to be around.Negative people will always drag you down to their level. They hammer away at you with all of the things you can’t do and all of the things that are impossible. They barrage you with gloomy statements about the lousy economy, the problems in their lives, the problems soon to be in your life, and the terrible prospects for the future. If you’re lucky, they might even throw in a few words about their aches and pains and recent illnesses

After listening to toxic people, you feel listless, depressed and drained. Psychologist Jack Canfield describes them as “energy vampires” — they suck all the positive energy out of you. One thing is certain: these “vampires” will wear you down and kill your dreams. On the other hand, how do you feel when you are around people who are positive, enthusiastic and supportive? I’ll bet that you are encouraged and inspired. You start to pick up their attitude, and you feel as if you have added strength to vigorously pursue your own goals. If you had a choice, wouldn’t you rather hang out with nourishing people? Well, in fact, you DO have a choice. It’s up to you to determine who you spend your time with. If toxic people surround you in your daily life, you can do something about it

To begin with, develop friendships and associations with people who are positive and supportive. In addition, seek out people who are action-oriented and service-oriented. As you spend more and more time in the company of people who have these traits, you, too, will develop the same successful characteristics and put them to use in your life. Consider who you have been spending your time with. Examine your friendships and relationships at work and during your leisure hours. Those who occupy your time have a significant impact on your most priceless possession … your mind! It is your responsibility to regulate what you allow into your mind

Here are some steps you can take to be more responsible in this area:

If you regularly have lunch with toxic people at work, stop it. You should be able to find a diplomatic way of extricating yourself from this “poisonous” group

If you have a toxic relative (which could be your mother, father, son or daughter), it is important to put some limits on your involvement with them. This does not mean that you abandon this relative and never speak to him or her. However, you should not go out of your way to call that person several times each day if he or she is going to put you down or fill the conversation with negative remarks

Form your own positive group with friends or colleagues. Make a commitment to meet with these people on a regular basis ( e.g., once a week or once a month) to discuss goals, exchange ideas and offer support. These should be people who accept you as you are and yet challenge you to be the best that you can be

In case you’re wondering, I’m in favor of trying to help friends who are negative. I think we should make efforts to steer them in a more positive direction. But if we’ve been trying for the last 9 years and the person insists on being negative, maybe it’s time to severely limit the amount of time we spend with that person – or to stop spending any time with that individual

As you increase your associations with nourishing people, you will feel better about yourself and about your ability to achieve your goals. You’ll become a more positive, upbeat person – the kind of person others love to be around. I used to think that it was important to associate with positive people and to limit involvement with negative people. Now, I believe that it is essential if you want to be a high-achiever and a happy individual. By the way, as you continue to associate with positive people, the law of attraction starts to kick in. That law states that LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE. When you are positive, you’ll attract more positive people into your life. Of course, if you are NEGATIVE, you’ll attract negative people. So, surround yourself with positive, nourishing people – they will lift you up the ladder of success

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When will you stop?

29 12 2007

“A tear on the face of eternity”

Rabindranath Tagore
(Nobel Laureate,1913)
Shahjehan wanted Taj Mahal to be the most unique statement of love and beauty. He brought marbles from Rajasthan(around 400 miles away from the site), the most famous and skilled artisans from India and Persia and the gems from Middle East.Yet he was frequently worried by the distant possibility of this monument being overlooked by the tides of time, sons of the future.
So at the end of it, he took a step, a drastic one, to put rest to all his demons. So what was supposed to be a symbol of beauty, also went down as the mark of the greatest injustice. ShahJehan made it sure, the very hands which sculpted the marbels of the Taj were cut,severed and rendered useless. The artisans, all 21,000 of them, went home limbless, amputated. The architect lost his life.
For an artist, his hands bring pride to him. Each time he looks at them, he feels the power of creativity in him, which he washes alive with the energy of the Universe to bring forth the most beautiful things in life. And ShahJehan took away that singleton piece of pride. He didnt render him mean-less, he rendered the artisans meaningless.
Although this story of ShahJehan doesn’t have historic evidence. Yet a similar act is carried out everyday of our lives. And this time, we are the artisans and we are the very ShahJehans.We kill each day, the opportunity for our inner-artists to come out and be proud. We sever the inner artisan’s will with fear, razor sharp fear. We take out lives from the inner- architects, by pessimism, cold blood pessimism. We let each day pass by, dreaming and not acting on our hopes, desires and wants, we push each of our day into a void from where it will never come back. Another opportunity to sculpt ourselves is gone forever. Each day, thousands of people die, with their dreams un-lived because they chose not to. Each day, millions of people shut up their dreams and carry on doing what they are not supposed to do. And each day billions of people, dream and then kill it by pessimism.
As they say,
“Dont die with the music still in you”
So, when will you stop killing your dreams?
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Where does the power lie?

28 12 2007
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A long time ago, there was a powerful shaman in a village, in a place far,far away. There was this young man, He’-sha-be who apparently impressed by the magical skills of the shaman, decided to be his apprentice. But there was a problem, he was not the only one who wanted to be his apprentice, there were two more. So the shaman, decided to take a test. He said to his fellow-men, with his eyebrows curled, and eyes closed in a hawk-like expression, “Ye! all, Look at these hands and look at these fingers. Powerful are they, blessed are they, magical are they…” And the crowd nodded vociferously, and cheered.” And let these men… “pointing to the three youngsters, who wanted to be under his tutelage, “then point out which finger of mine, resides the most potent power”. And the crowd cheered with anticipation of something truly miraculous. One by one the youngsters walked up and pointed to one of the fingers. Yet wrong it was, then He’-sha-be came up and said,

“O ye great one, the power is not in them…” and the crowd gasped, the shaman squinted his eyes even more.

“… the power lies in our hands”. The entire crowd gasped and looked to the shaman with wide astonishment, but the shaman, smiled and gave him a pat of praise.

So where does the power lie? Does it lie in your hands or in the hands of invisibles whom you let control your life.

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Can you quit?

26 12 2007

The Long Road Ahead

I have been bugged by this question, for quite some time. No its not “How many girls have ditched you?”(honestly not that many 😉 ). Neither it is some tough question about the string theory breakdown in the presence of high nuclear forces in atoms. Wait, its very simple. Its this simple as to just say yes or no: The question is “Can you quit?” Honestly can we quit? Yeah, can we quit anything we started? Umm… say this online session?(No… thats not the end of it! ) or say quit eating apple pies, or maybe something more sensible, quit your job? (Eyebrows and glare) Honestly how many of us, including me can boast of such a freedom. You see, don’t look for any safety nets, don’t search for any insurance, just do it. Tell your boss, I quit. Go up to your friends and claim you have quit drinking. Walk up to your long time foe, look up to him and say I have quit being inimical. For that matter, why should we quit, why not start? Why not start on a hitchhiking trip you always dreamt on. Hey come on, don’t give excuses like I haven’t got paid holidays. Or maybe you can walk up to that girl on the front aisle in the church and bare yourself out(not literally, just figuratively). Now that my answer, to most of them will be a no, albeit I thought myself to be a fiercely independent guy, Can I then take a ‘no’ from you?

Often it’s like that and those who say ‘yes’ are truly blessed. Now that I found a symptom, let me find the reason. I think its fear. Yeah its fear isnt it? What do you think. Fear of the unknown. Fear of maybe being a social outcast. Fear of rejection… no.. not fear of rejection. Maybe more of being laughed upon by friends(at least it is in the case of walking up to that girl in the second row of the bus). Umm… but it is fear isn’t it? So are we free to do what we want?

I dream of going for bungee jumping in Himalaya,
I see myself hitchhiking from Europe to Asia,
I’ll one day make a school for these kids in India,
I see myself building a name from here to California
I dream so much more, I see so many more,
yet I still have to face my devils and bring them fore





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